A family of support groups for people that have been affected by the problem of alcoholism within their family is identified as Al-Anon. These gatherings provided much-needed support and healing.
Al Anon was founded in 1951 and is an organization which provides support to the friends and family members of people who are addicted to alcohol. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is the first alcoholic support group that was started by the husband of Lois Wilson who went on to later start her own support group, Al-Anon. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon is a self-supported organization which exists thanks to financial contributions from members. The family of the addicts usually get tips on how they can help their loved ones and live comfortably with them.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
The Effects On A Family Due To Alcoholism
Al-Anon recognizes that alcoholism affects everyone in the family not just the addicted member. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Many family members are known to blame themselves for the drinking problem of their loved one, and in many cases do not understand why the recovery of their loved one is a priority. During the Al-Anon gathering, people are educated about taking alcoholism not as a one person problem but as a joint issue in the family.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Teens are also affected by alcoholism and that is why Alateen was formed within Al-Anon to help them.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
The Benefits Of Attending An Al-Anon Group
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. There are Al-Anon meetings all across the nation. Call us on 0800 772 3971 to help you find one near you.
The Results Of These Meetings
If you know someone who is an alcoholic, then Al-Anon is the best place for you. Contact an Al-Anon group near you if you are concerned about someone who is drinking more than they should or who is making your life stressful because of their drinking.
People always fear the unknown, and so the first meeting at Al-Anon is bound to be a challenge. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
The Meetings Usually Vary
There are meetings where you may not be helped but someone else might be.
Al-Anon is not based on any religion
These meetings are focused on the 12 Step program by Al-Anon
Al -Anon meetings permit attendees to "take what they like and leave the rest", being conducted under a mantra. Thus, meetings put an increased focus on talking about experiences and hardships rather than telling attendees what to do.
Usually, meetings start with someone reading from the 12 step program. These twelve steps are an abridged, almost verbatim, quote from the same-name program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. The 12 Steps are as follows:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
This is the point where alcoholism recognised as a conditioner that has affected them all.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
After admitting that they are powerless they begin to understand the fact that they can be brought back to sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
Self-discovery is an essential component of the steps, and this is the start of that.
The group members write down a list of the instances when they may have been unfair to themselves or their significant others (for example, threats).
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Then follows going through the list one item at a time and dealing with each.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This step is highly essential as it is the complete acceptance of the recovery process supported by a Higher Power.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
This part of the twelve step process helps people realize how controlling or judgmental they have been towards an alcoholic and how counterproductive it is.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
Most people believe they caused their loved one to start drinking.
They must agree to pardon themselves and make amends.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Going through the 12 Steps is a process that takes time.
Slipping up is quite normal despite members already having made an inventory.
Step 10 provides a recognition that this is an ongoing process.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious effort with god as we understood him praying only for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out.
Self acceptance is the major key to all the stages of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
After this, group members are encouraged to support others by sharing what they have already learned.
Learning About The Higher Power
Members do have an acceptance of a higher power, even though Al-Anon is not a religious program. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Members of all religions and beliefs are accepted at Al-Anon and none is coerced to change their beliefs.